How do you get your ex girlfriend to do a paternity test?

I have an ex girlfiend and I am the father of a 14month old son whom I have never seen. She has not contacted me cause shes back with her ex husband and they are living together. I can't afford a $2500 lawyer. just want to see if I can start visitation and child support. She has said I am the dad but wont let me see him. Her ex has tried to imitidate me this whole time and threatened to beat me up. i have left them alone thinking she would contact me, but she hasnt, so i want to see my son and get her to take a dna. I am one of the good guys who want to pay child support and want to see my son.does someone have any ideas?How do you get your ex girlfriend to do a paternity test?
She will have to go through the courts to ask for child support. At that point you ask for a paternity test.How do you get your ex girlfriend to do a paternity test?
YOU can file for child support (to pay it, I mean). Some men do that in order to get a legal agreement and to establish a record of their payments and involvement. If you do, the court will need to determine paternity. They will very likely order a DNA test or at least get a sworn statement from the two of you. You can also file for parenting time (visitation). Go to social services. A case worker can help you do the paperwork. You should also look into free legal services in your community. Many places provide that for exactly the type of situation you're in.
Well first off you have to petition the court or you can't force her into anything.


You can go online and try to find a SAPCR suit affecting parent child relationship form. It will be a petition you file with the court. Then she has to be served the papers and the court will go ffrom there.


There are certain things that will go with it and you will need some help. Try to find a legal aid attorney
although some women get offended when a man asks for a paternity test..in your case it seems like your trying to do the right thing and she and her spouse are just being stubborn..don't let them discourage you..i'm sure if u at least go to the family courts and explain your situation they'll work with you since its ultimately whats in the best interest of the child..good luck
taking her to court is the only way man sorry.





*Im telling you NO it sucks welcome to the realization that men have no reproductive rights, and if i were you i would do it before she got married and the kid automatically becomes the ex-husbands.
if she is with someone already and they are willing to take care of her baby then she might not ask you for child support. i would go to the court and ask them what you can do, if not call the maury show.
Go to your local social services building and ask them what is best to do. You may not need a lawyer at all, just a court order but the procedure for that is different in every state- good luck and great job in standing up and wanting to see your son.





EDIT- Id also tell them about the husbands threats, I dont know you or the couple but it may not be the safest place for your son either. You are entitled to shared custody if he is your son and the bully of a husband can not and should not put a stop to that.








EDIt- Sorry this took so long. Legally if you are his father, adn there is no reason why you cant- you have every legal right to fight for 50/50 custody. You may end up with more if his mothers home isnt safe. Fight for your rights and demand to see your son if hes yours. 50/50 custody could mean every other week- every tuesday thurday and the weekend one week and then monday, wensday, friday the next. Really you guys would have to figure it out in the courts but yes you could be in his life for a very large part if thats what you want. Her teasing you about being his father then not allowing you to find out the truth and not allowing you to see him is nto what a good mother does. She prob thinks the whole thing was a mistake but that doesnt matter- you are both adults and she needs to step up and do whats best for her son and if you are his father then allowing you to see him is whats best.