How can i get my ex girlfriend back?

My gf and I split up 5 months ago,the break up was hard on her, and we stayed close and acted like we were out the whole time, we did all the stuff u do when your dating. 2 weeks ago she asked if i still loved her and i said yes, it made me realise all the feelings i had so i asked her back out, she said no, she said she has had to much pain and doesnt wnat that again. She slept with someon else and said she realised she isnt as hung up on me as she thought, it was just a 1 night stand. I've turned into your cliche, not eating, sleeping, always thinking about it. We have done his before breaking up and den havin one nights stands with other people and i won her back, she says she doesn't love me like she did but she said that last time. I have had long chats with her and she said she doesn't want anybody and wants space and to enjoy life. i kept goin on and she said she wanted space and i gave her that, she wants to get back to bein close like we have for the past few months. I wrote her a letter and she said she is sorry about the way im feeling because she has felt liek that for 5 months, she said she spent all that time thinking about me, so i wish i said something sooner, i feel ive missed my chance. she also said that she feels its happened for a reason and it upsets her 2 but she cnt help it, she cares alot. She said she doesnt wnat any1 and she wants to be the good friends that we are. And the way i see my life is if im meant to ill get the feelings back but i really dnt want it at the mo! we always hang out and she calls me her best friend and i said about goin cinema and she said we will do stuff liek dat because i am really important to her. Im totally confused because we have split up a 3 times and gone back out and its been great, she has taken all splits quite hard in the past. Im confused because how can she fall out of love in 2 weeks? why is she wanting to keep me so close yet tellin me she desnt have those feelings for me but if there meant 2 den they'll come back? im not bothered about the other bloke because last time we split we both slept with other people and then went back out together. i dont no whether to throw in the towel, or to not have contact and see if she comes back or what? i really love her and i know shes loved me for 3 years, how can that be lost in 2 weeks? is she just wanting to have fun and keep me there? or is it definately all over?? i dont get the siuation at all!! any help??How can i get my ex girlfriend back?
Hey Shane.....You need to turn the tables around and you need to do it quick if you want your girl back.





Quit being her friend for the time being and telling her how much you love her etc. Right now you are being her emotional tampon. I don't mean to sound harsh but that is the reality of it.





I have seen this so many times where the guy gets so hung up on their girl that they change into a needy clingy guy.





What attracted her to you in the first place? Not being a sap but being cool and strong about who you are as a person. Women want a guy that's got it going on, like the guy you used to be when you first met.





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an ex girlfriend is an x for a reason ,just stay friends
My dad used to say it's the rocks in the brook that make the water sing. These things we hate in life, like losing someone and not being able to influence their decision, is really tough on us. You'll be going about your business and then -WAM- a memory from a smell or sound brings you right back and it hurts all over again.





The thing about it is that this pain is so necessary when you break up. It makes sure that the next time we are in a relationship, we don't jerk it up like we did the ones before. It reminds us how careful we need to step, understanding how it felt last time.





You cannot force this decision and you can't really influence it because of your past. All you can do is take the lesson from this and try to make it better last time.





Remember exes are exes for a reason.
May be your gf realized that you are both better to be friends relationship only and no more than that. Just take it easy and try to understand her feelings and when the time comes you will know that it is really for real either her or not.
well is sounds like she doesnt really know what she want just tell her to really think about what she wants in this relationship and give her space and when i space i mean dont see her you could text her but not to much its gonna be hard i know ive been through this to well kinda similar give it acouple of weeks maybe longer and if she really cares for you then she will come around. well good luck
Okay one, you sleep with other people? What up with that? You shouldnt be doing that if you love her. Two, Im goin thru the same thing as you. My ex bf and I have been off and on like that for the last 3 weeks. She wants to be friends bcuz she wants to feel like she still has some1. She still wants to be a part of your life. Shes not ready to just go out in the world and forget about you. (She did what I did, We feel the same) So, shes still torn between loving you and moving on from you. THATS why she chose being friends bcuz notice, being friends is right in the smack down center of loving and moving on. Make sense? Thats how she feels. She cares about you, no doubt, One part of her loves you, the other part of her wants to move on. Shes torn, so she wants to be friends. Okay three, if you love her, you should comfort her and be really nice to her bcuz if you do treat her nice nd sweet, it'll bring the ';love levels'; up more. You should also tell her how you feel. That always helps in relationships..I hope this helped! A lot of it is what Im going thru right now. Good luck :)